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…Deserve a Pat on the Back

February 8, 2010 by  

Ever feel like you earned a pat on your back for your kids’ behavior? I don’t even mean that they went out of their way to do something that made you feel particularly prideful. More like they didn’t do anything to particularly embarrass the hell out of you. This celebration is very rare.

I would assume that like us, most have different ‘types’ of couple/family friends that they turn to for certain things.

Couple A: One couple you may only go out to dinner with when you get a sitter (b/c either you can’t stand their kids, or they can’t stand your kids).

Couple B: Then, there’s the couple who only comes over your house — with their handful of kids — b/c they are so anal, they would rather use and abuse your home than have to get a few fingerprints on their windows. So, if you’re gonna see ’em, you’ll bet they’ll be coming to your house.  Oh, I’m SO over that type of friend, and don’t have time for them anymore.

Couple C: Then, there’s the couple that does not reprimand their children — and you fear that your own kids will learn their childrens’ bad habits (and see that those kids don’t receive any consequences), so you see each other in small doses. And, each time you get together, you swear to yourself you’re not doing again, and revert back to the first friend scenario, above (Couple A).

Couple D: Oh, and my favorite — the couple who you thought you were on the same page with; however, you hear through the grapevine that they are criticizing your parenting, from another state nonetheless. Those are the friends who piss me off the most. I only know of one such couple; we never see them anymore. Aren’t strict enough?  Are you kidding me?  Anyone who knows us well knows that our children will be punished if they fall below our expectations of them, end of story.

Anywho, the pat on the back surfaces from what my children DIDN’T do this weekend while we were away with them.

Isn’t it always the case that when you’re
with the couple who really would understand that kids are (just) kids, and if they did act poorly, they really wouldn’t judge you. They’d understand; heck, they have kids too, and realize that neither kids nor parents are perfect.  I guess what I’m saying is that if they did act up, I would HAVE WANTED it to be around them b/c they’re so understanding and normal (!) — well, their parenting, anyway :twisted:.

I’ll take what I can get, though. I just couldn’t help but think how much more torturous this weekend would have been if we felt like we were walking on eggshells all weekend.

Anyone else have any of the above “types” of friends? I’d love to hear some horror stories!

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6 Responses to “…Deserve a Pat on the Back”
  1. Angel says:

    I have had each type of friend. BUT to make it worse I have a sister who is continuously judging other mothers on their mothering and sayign they did this wrong and that wrong. I finally looked at her and said “pretty harsh comments froma woman who didn’t even raise her own, so when you ARE a mother every day with your OWN children don’t knock someone else” I said this cause she WILLINGLY gave her kids up to live it up and date and all that jazz that kids put a damper on. sooo yeah keepyour opinions to yourself..


  2. Shell says:

    I’m a different type. I’m the type who would much rather insist that you come here with your kids because then I don’t worry about my kids breaking anything at your house. I can relax if we’re in my house.


  3. Blond Duck says:

    It seems like no matter what stage of life you’re at, it’s hard to make friends!


    Kat Reply:

    At least the genuine ones that’ll last forever. Fortunately, I’m blessed to have found a handful of them (!). Thanks for your Comment!!


  4. Yup, have every one of them! I guess it is good to have a variety LOL, that way depending on the mood of the house and the current issues with the kids, there is always an option.


  5. Emmy says:

    You are so right.. unfortunately the last type seems to be too far and few between. I would rather have people come to my house too, I know it is kid proof and if my kids broke something then well at least it would be my something.


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