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What I would do differently, A LITTER Later… Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop

April 8, 2010 by Kat  

Mama's Losin' It

What you would do differently as a first time mom… a litter later.

  1. I wish I cared less about (and spent less on!) what I dressed my infant/toddler in. Wait to spend that trivial money when they get older and actually have an opinion… and beg for the brand names.
  2. If you do nothing else — do not let anyone make you feel badly about sticking to a nap schedule (for your infant/toddler). If you aren’t already on one, I worshipped these two books exclusively and interwoven on our lives was practices from both (infants/toddlers):

    Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child
    , and On Becoming Babywise: Giving Your Infant The Gift of Nighttime Sleep

    Other adults, or moms with kids who aren’t on any sort of schedule, JUST-DON’T-GET-IT.
    They just don’t get it. And, you know your infant/toddler better than anyone else. Coordinated sleep is a gift, a TRUE GIFT, you can give a child. It will set the stage not only for the rest of their day… but their week… their month… their year… their life.
    Oh, and I forgot… if you keep your infant up an extra hour or two three just for all those people who told you to relax… WHO IS IT THAT winds up being up with infant for 4 hours during the night? WHO IS IT THAT has to pay the price with a belligerent child the next day for 12 hours? Having an infant stay up for an extra hour for no reason causes 12 hours of pain the next day — that the mom parent has to endure. NOT. WORTH. IT.
  3. I wish I tidied the house less!
  4. I wish I put a magnetic note pad on my fridge and wrote down the funny stuff that happened… funny phrases or ways the baby did things… quirks… hysterical babble that you and your spouse found yourself regurgitating to each other in public and realized you were total losers for talking like your baby TO each other!
  5. Darn it. Why didn’t they friggin’ have FlipVideo when my kids were small? I would have whipped it out during the unplanned moments more… and not reserved videotaping for the big holidays.
  6. Stop reading about “the best strollers” (and oozing in envy over getting them), and all the best “crap” for your baby (that you’ll use for — at MOST — 8 months… go in debt over… and realize: “WHAT A WASTE!”
  7. I would stop reading a thousand different opinions about the “best way” to feed your child, “the best discipline” to adhere to, “what your kid must know before preschool”. I think we (I) turned out fabulously, and my mom JUST. WENT. WITH. HER. GUT.
    It’s a waste of time… now, that’s not to say if you’re struggling with a uncontrollable 3 year old, and everything you’ve tried isn’t working, definitely look into books that have amazing reviews on Amazon, and have worked for others. The two books I used (and still use) and elevated the way we parented are:
    Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years, and 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12

  8. Planned less. I got out of the house not NEARLY as well as I should have b/c I had to pack the diaper bag (which sometimes took hours!).
  9. Don’t stress out about nursing — especially being in exactly the right place at the right time exactly when you predict the baby will get up. 9 times outta 10 it won’t work out the way you expect. Just jump into your car, pull the front seat back, whip it out, seal the deal, and move along with your day. If you’re in the middle of shopping, ask the Customer Service desk to hold your basket of groceries until you get back. They’ll do it.
  10. DO NOT. I REPEAT DO NOT. WAKE A SLEEPING BABY. Unless your Dr. says he/she isn’t thriving and needs to gain weight. I believe by letting “him go” when he was younger, my 4th child NOW (over the last few months) goes down for a nap at 2 pm (few days/week), and doesn’t wake until 8 am the next day! He just turned 2 yesterday, and instead of freaking out about whether/not he was sleeping too much when he was younger, I am now grateful I took a chill pill.
    (Meanwhile, admittedly, I don’t know if I would have been able to practice what I’m preaching with my 1st! Their little bodies know what they need, and if you’re Pediatrician agrees (as mine does), DO NOT WAKE A SLEEPING CHILD!)
  11. Be careful what you wish for about “who they’ll become”. It may not be what you expect, or really want.
  12. STOP TRYING TO BE SO PERFECT… and have them become so perfect. KEY, key, key!


PLEASE share your “What I would do differently’s”, please!!


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Comments

8 Responses to “What I would do differently, A LITTER Later… Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop”
  1. What a beautiful list – even if you made tiny mistakes, you’re obviously a fantastic mother.

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  2. Momma Drama says:

    Love this list! I have a 9 year old & 2 year old… I’ve realized (since he’s my last) to sit back and enjoy him – didn’t do that with the 1st.

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  3. erica says:

    I think I am doing very well with your list! I ADORE the sleeping schedule… ADORE it.

    I’ve been taking a non-stress approach to everything… from nursing to napping. I am my child’s best advocate!

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  4. amber says:

    Great list -one I agree wholeheartedly with. Especially the nap schedule…ours is iron clad.

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  5. Pippi says:

    Hi Kat, thanks you again for stopping by my blog. Your blog ROCKS! We’re almost neighbors too :) (I am in Charlotte). My boys are 8 and 10 and they have been on a night time schedule every since they were babies. Bath, tv, bed, sleep.

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  6. Tracie says:

    I was all about the sleep schedule! It drove my husband’s family crazy…..when they planned family Christmas to begin at 7pm an hour away from our house when my daughter was 1, I said, “we will send presents with my husband. I love you all, but Katarina and I can’t come”

    The thing I would change would be just to really enjoy all those precious moments. When life was crazy and stressful, I wish I would have blocked all of that out and reveled in all the baby cuteness!

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  7. Dave (He Said) says:

    I wish you tidied more! Can I say that here? Great list, Sweets!

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